Can you find the frog in the plant? This frog has been visiting me for the past several days. Showing up in the rarest of places – on the patio table, and in my favorite potted plants. After the fourth time meeting him, I figured it was a sign. If a certain animal keeps following you, it might have a message for you. It might be your animal totem (click here to find your animal in alphabetical order). The meaning behind the frog totem resonates with me at this time of my life, especially what it has to say about its senses, language, and creativity. What animals have met you along your life’s journey?
Who knew culture shock could hit after almost five years? Well it happened to me. Culture shock is usually defined as something that happens within the first year of living in a new culture. It’s described by these linear stages: Honeymoon, Withdrawal, Adjustement, and Adaptation. For me the experience doesn’t seem so linear. I also realized how sneaky and subtle it is. I feel like I hung out a long time in the honeymoon and adjustment stages, but after four years and nine months into my Korean experience, I started to notice strong feelings of withdrawal.
Reflection: I felt like I was losing “myself”, I was beginning to lack confidence in all aspects of my life, and I definitely felt melancholy for family and friends of my “own culture”. I had to readjust my old way of thinking, my old way of being. I had to mourn the loss of the old “me”. Now I’m celebrating the new “me” – the “me” who is letting go of the shoulds with regards to adapting. I’ve accepted the shift, and I feel myself becoming confident and content once again. I think two new stages should be added to the culture shock model – the Mourning/Celebration Stage, and the Acceptance Stage -stages I came to realize after facing my feelings of sadness and fear.
Check out selfgrowth.com for an uplifting and informative article on culture shock. My favorite quote there is: “It’s helpful to first acknowledge your feeling and then become pro-active.” Pro-active is the way to go any day.
I dedicate this piece of my blog to Natalie R. who encouraged me to add it.
Happy Birthday to Moi!
This is the spooky spot-on horoscope which predicted the shift.
Virgo Aug 23 | Sep 22 No more rotten dessert, Virgo. No more silky danger or juicy poison. No more worthless treasures or empty successes or idiotic brilliance. Soon all those crazy-making experiences will be gone, blasted, dead. By this time next week, the bad influences that were trying to pass themselves off as good influences will have fallen away in response to your courageous drive for authenticity. You will be primed to restore your innocence and play in places where purity is the rule, not the exception. Already, the wisdom of your wild heart is regenerating, giving you the strength to overthrow the sour, life-hating influences that were threatening to smother your spirit.
I dedicate this piece to Rebecca who introduced me to this uncanny website.
Thanks for reading! Until next time, peace out!